Start on the outside,
massage your anus and perineum.
You never want to rush the penetration part of anal
play. Start with an external massage. The perineum is
located between the testicles and above the anus and
most men find that massaging the perineum is very relaxing
and pleasurable. Massage the anus using a rhythmic,
circular motion. You can gently push on the anus as
if you're ringing a doorbell, without forcing your finger
inside. This will help relax the anal sphincter.
Go on in.
When you are ready to insert a finger in the anus, try
to tune into your breath. Breathe deeply. The best way
to insert a finger in the anus is to start with the
pad of your finger first (not the tip).
Gently put the pad of one finger up to the opening of
the anus, and as you exhale, push out (as if you’re
trying to go to the bathroom) while you insert a well-lubed
finger.
Once inside, rest a moment while you
get used to the sensation of having something in your
anus.
Find your prostate.
You should be able to feel your prostate about two inches
in and toward your belly. It is often a walnut-shaped
bump. Some men will know when they are touching it,
others won’t notice much at all. It can be easier
to have someone else find it for you (if you happen
to have someone handy!)
Experiment with different kinds of
touch.
Once you’ve found the prostate you can experiment
with what feels good. You’ll find it much easier
and more comfortable to use a lubricant with your fingers
or toys. Some men like the feeling of consistent pressure
or pressing on the prostate, others will get off on
vibration, or an on-off kind of pressure. You can also
experiment by squeezing your PC muscle and see how that
changes the feeling of prostate stimulation.
Try playing with anal toys.
Anal sex toys can be a great way to explore what prostate
stimulation can feel like for you. Toys that have a
slight curve are often designed for prostate stimulation.
Some toys will vibrate, which is a completely different
kind of sensation that some guys like and others don’t.
If you’re going to try an anal vibrator, be sure
to get one with variable speed, so you can start slow
if you want to.
Try butt plugs.
Butt plugs are anal toys designed to be inserted in
the anus and stay in place. Some guys will put in a
butt plug and then have other kinds of sex play (either
masturbation or play with partners). Many say that having
a butt plug in (which provides a mild but constant prostate
stimulation) really changes the way that their orgasms
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