A word of warning
here. Care should always be taken when masturbating
with a dildo. Excessive size or over enthusiastic movements
can cause internal bruising or worse. Small objects
or items that can break or shed parts can cause real
problems, such as cutting or internal losses, both of
which could require medical assistance to fix. Hygiene
too has to be considered. Any germs on an inserted item
are going to get into you and could cause infections
of various types; it is often a good idea to place a
condom over your chosen object. So be warned, if you
want to insert something make sure it's safe.
Whatever you choose to insert, it
will technically be a dildo, as dildo is the name for
a substitute penis used for penetrative masturbation.
For this reason we will just use the word dildo but
you can read it as being whatever you have to hand (hair
brush handle, carrot, candle etc..). Alternatively you
can buy a dildo.
First off, try to ensure your vagina
is well lubricated, either with natural juices or some
form of lubrication. Take it easy with the insertion,
especially if the object you are using is larger than
say a couple of fingers in diameter. Masturbating with
the dildo by moving it in and out gives a pleasant feeling
but experiment with stirring actions and trying different
angles of insertion.
An angle where the head of the dildo
is going to rub up the front wall of your vagina may
be especially nice for you (it rubs on your 'G' spot).
Working the dildo only takes one hand so it may be fun
to use the other elsewhere, such as on your clitoris.
This is the most likely way to have an orgasm as few
women orgasm from vaginal stimulation only (though it
is nice). It can also be fun to combine a dildo with
a vibrator at this point as well, or perhaps invest
in the type of dildo that also vibrates.
Dildos can also be used externally
to good effect, especially the softer latex/silicone
types that are commercially available. To try this option
grease up your dildo with plenty of lube, place it in
a flat surface that you can straddle (pile of cushions,
arm of a sofa, edge of a bath tub etc) and sit on it
so that it runs the length of your vulva from clitoris
to anus. Slide your body back and forth so that your
weight pushes your clitoris and other sensitive parts
down onto the shaft as it slides through between your
labia majora, and slide to and fro. If this becomes
tiring then hold the position, grab the end of the dildo
that is sticking out the front and work it back and
forth against yourself.
How big should a dildo be?
It is worth considering issues of dildo size, especially
if you are going to spend money on a commercial one.
First don't believe the myth that bigger is always better.
The best is the one that suits you and that may be a
long thin one, a short fat one or a long fat one (especially
for those of us that have had children).
You're no less of a woman if you want
a small one or more of one if you want a king-size tool.
It should be kept in mind that narrower shafts are easier
to insert and allow faster stroking, whereas thicker
ones take more inserting and are usually harder to work
in and out, though they do give a pleasant 'stuffed'
sensation. The bottom line is be realistic in deciding
what you need and what you can handle before you buy
a dildo, unless you can afford a selection!
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