Most women orgasm
from stimulation of the clitoris. Many others can only
orgasm from vaginal penetration or G-Spot stimulation.
Remember, there is no wrong or right way to masturbate,
everyone is different and we all respond differently.
First, Relax as much as you can. Ensure
your privacy; lock your door, turn off the phone, make
sure you are alone. Find a comfortable position. Most
women start masturbating lying on their backs, legs
bent and spread apart, with feet on the bed or floor.
Remove some or all of your clothing; whatever feels
right for you. Don't be afraid to move, rock, grunt,
scream, and cry during masturbation. You are seeking
total release, so get used to reactions you might have
when you lose control. Be silly! Be loud! Let yourself
go!!
Fantasise for masturbation.
Recall an exciting past sexual encounter or elaborate
on a favourite sexual fantasy. If you need a boost,
look at a sexy magazine, read an erotic story, or watch
an adult video. Allow your mind to explore any images--anything
goes as long as it heightens your excitement.
Explore all parts of your body.
Run your hands along parts of your body, lingering along
areas that are more responsive to touch than others.
Look at your genitals in a mirror (especially if you're
unfamiliar with them) and caress the different parts
to see what feels especially good. Find and touch your
inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and
your perineum.
Touch yourself.
Using one or two fingers, rhythmically stroke the different
parts of your vulva, paying particular attention to
your clitoris and labia. Experiment with different types
of pressure, speed and motion. Try placing a finger
on either side of the clitoris and stroking up and down,
or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and rubbing
in a circular motion.
Thigh squeezing
Some women can achieve sexual pleasure -- even orgasm
-- by simply squeezing or rubbing their thighs together,
thus indirectly stimulating the clitoris. This technique
can even be used in public! Without risk as there is
nothing to show what you are doing and you can remain
fully dressed! Long bus ride? Boring desk job or classroom?
No problem! Suggestions to get you started. When masturbating
at home, make it a habit to press together your thighs
when you orgasm. After that becomes second nature, press
your thighs when you can't stop yourself from having
an orgasm (but haven't yet), and then pull your hands
away - leave it up to your legs to ride yourself over
the top. You're bound to have a few frustrating flameouts,
but the practice is worth it. Eventually, with the help
of fantasy and association, you'll be able to proceed
using only your thighs from earlier and earlier in the
masturbation process.
Some women seem to prefer "riding
the seam" of jeans; others like the greater closeness
of hose or bare legs under a skirt or dress. Experiment
to find what works for you.
Humping
Humping is thrusting your genitals against something
hard or at least firm. For example:
Sliding along the edge of the bathtub.
Sitting on a pillow or cushion or
similar and rocking the hips back and forth.
Lying face down with something like
a chair leg pressed up against your vulva. Thrusting
up and down to cause your clitoris to rub on the leg.
A nicely shaped leg, with ridges etc, can be very pleasurable.
There is a range of techniques that
all involve moving a cord or something similar back
and forward along your vulva. Some examples:
Take a stocking or a pair of tights,
the cord off a dressing gown or a length of ribbon and
hold one end in one hand behind your back, let the fabric
drape between your legs and hold the other end in your
other hand at the front. The material should then be
pulled up into the crotch so that it works into your
vulva. Pulling it gently backwards and forwards causes
it to stimulate your clitoris in a divine way. If its
an option, try oiling the material up before playing
by rubbing a little lubricant along it's length.
A long bead necklace or a synthetic
pearl string can be great for this too. The knobs feel
great as they slide by.
Tie a cord/ribbon/etc between the
backs of two chairs so that it is suspended at crotch
height. Step across, position the cord along your vulva
and walk back and forward.
Tickling
Masturbation need not be a hurried thing. If you have
plenty of time, the excitement can be built up to amazing
levels, and orgasms made stronger, if you go really
slowly and tease yourself to a climax. The secret of
this is light stimulation rather than the direct/intense
approach.
Feather
A nice long quill, as long as it is clean, can be great
fun. Apart from the flicking and brushing actions described
above you can also enjoy a pulling the feather along
your vulva like an extension of a single finger. As
the feather is less susceptible dampness than a brush
you don't need to keep away from your vagina so much.
The great thing is that as you get more aroused and
feel like pressing on harder the feather simply flexes
and so the level of stimulation stays the same.
Shower
Let's look at the most common technique that involves
the use of that neat little tool, the showerhead. The
hand held kind are especially useful for this approach.
The first thing you want to do is adjust the temperature
so that it is not too hot for the sensitive area of
the vagina. You can always turn up the heat once you
are accustomed to the temperature. Then find a comfortable
position - either sitting on a seat within the shower,
or lying down in the tub. Shower stalls can be a bit
confining for this form of masturbation, but there is
usually enough room to sit on the floor with your legs
bent. I suggest for the first time that you do this
that you not stand, you don't want any trips to the
accident and emergency when you accidentally slip and
fall.
Now, take the showerhead and let the
water spray over your body, feel the tingling sensations
as it sprays against your breasts. Imagine the sensations
are being created by the hands of your lover and spray
where you want to feel the touch. Slowly make your way
down your torso to your vaginal area. Spreading your
legs, let the water reach up and down the insides of
your thighs, and when you’re ready for advancing,
move it closer to your clit. Remember that direct contact
with your clit may be overpowering, so try moving the
water stream back and forth. Try bringing it closer,
and moving it farther away to cover a larger area.
You also might note that shower massagers
come with many different settings to adjust the streams
of the water - everything from mist to pulse. Experiment,
try them all! Start with the lightest amount of pressure
and work your way up. If you are sitting, you can always
operate the water with one hand, and use the fingers
on the other hand to either stimulate your breasts and
nipples, or you can insert a finger or two and see how
that feels.
The main point is to relax and let
your body feel all that is happening to it. If it feels
good, keep doing it. If it's not right, try sitting
in a different position, change the water temperature,
try a different pulse setting anything that makes if
feel better.
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