The first thing to
do is learn to relax. This may include a hot bath beforehand,
an erotic massage or even just a good workout. Remember
that the sphincter muscles around the anus will not
allow things to pass through easily unless you relax
and take it slow. Do not start with something the size
of a dildo or penis. Start with either: a) your partner's
finger or b) Small Butt Plug. The plug provides a unique
sensation and many couples consider it an exciting addition
to the bedroom. If you're more comfortable with a partner's
finger then start with that. The basic principle is
to start small and work your way up.
There are many objects that can be
used to safely stimulate the anus. A finger, tongue,
penis, sex toys...you name it. If you're thinking about
trying anal stimulation, body parts are probably the
best place to start. Fingers are good because they're
soft and are about the right size. Be sure to clip your
fingernails before you start. You don't want to tear
the sensitive tissue of the anus and rectum. If you're
thinking of using something other than your body parts,
my first suggestion would be to try an anal sex toy.
They're designed for this purpose, so they're a safer
choice than other objects. Whatever you use, be sure
it's slim, smooth and flared at the base.
One partner should lubricate or place
a lubricated condom over his or her finger. Take the
finger and arouse the surface of the anus, perhaps making
small circular motions as you go. Always pay attention
to your partner to indicate whether or not he or she
feels comfortable. Slowly attempt to push your finger
(or plug) slightly inside the anus. Do not use force
- stop immediately if your partner complains of discomfort.
If it is difficult to enter the anus, you probably need
more lubrication. The first time you try this, the receiver
may feel a bit of pain. Anal sex is not for everyone,
and if you feel uncomfortable stop and perhaps try again
later. Think of this process as training for later anal
encounters. Even a finger can provide intense stimulation
when it is inserted in the anus.
Once you have tried penetration with
a finger a number of times then you can move towards
something that is a bit larger. First you have to decide
on what type of anal stimulation that you enjoy. Do
you enjoy the movement of a finger, the fullness of
a butt plug, or the feeling of entry and withdrawal?
You may wish to proceed by being penetrated with your
partner's penis or by using an anal toy. For those who
enjoy the feeling of penetration more than motion or
vibration, try butt plugs which are designed specifically
for this purpose. A butt plug sits inside the anus,
and is not generally used for thrusting back and forth.
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